Here is the second part of People come in different colors.
Then came the consumers changing profile, which was expecting far beyond the assertiveness and outspokenness of product knowledge. The expectations exceeded to listening to the client, discovering and enlarging the specific needs, observing the behavior, and seeing the knowledge between the lines… This is a time of silence and insight.
Those who made the difference and brought their pepper and salt in the evolution of business behaviors are those who looked at happenings and observed the “why” of the how and “what if” of the what.
Once a fellow consultant analyzed my interaction with my second half and commented:
“You are in reds – and he is in blues!
You are in passion and he is in coolness.
Even if the content is the same, the form is different.
In fact it is so different in form that you never agree on what’s agreeable
You lose even when you are right
He wins even when he is wrong
He is perceived wise.
There is nothing you can do
Nature over nurture…”
I doubt coupling myself with another red would make for a good fit.
Would I be in constant reminder to myself to fade the tone of my red or equally would he want to add more warmth in his and blend coolness with more sunshine? Surely it would help, but it would not be natural, and as we said, “Nature above Nurture” would always leave us at risk for another conflict.
We decide to write because we need to explore or extract.
Writing is also a healing process.
Having spent the half of my time on earth in diagnosing organizations, workforce interactions or its non-interactions…mostly I was surprised why people were paying me X amount of money that was surely overrated against the simplicity of what’s being offered.
Simple advice … COMMUNICATE … Talk to each other … explore each other.
“I see something far away, I believe it is an animal
I come closer, I discover a human
I come even closer, I discover a friend “
After sitting two days in a meeting room with your peers, colleagues, or friends, people often find themselves leaving the room feeling a sense of belonging, understanding, and with a satisfaction of being understood…. What a beautiful mindset to be in!
At one time one of the participants said:
“I’ve worked with him for many years but never noticed that even today I don’t know his Chinese name” – here I should clarify for those who are not familiar with the Chinese business setting. It is common practice to have nicknames replacing real ones on the business cards.
You can take the same elevator each morning, exit onto the same floor, sit back-to-back or face-to-face in the same cubicles for years and still ignore one another.
Are we so busy that we don’t waste any time on the essentials?
Or have we become so social with our screens that we don’t need the warmth of the guy next door?
No wonder human engagement is at an all time low and conflicts at a peak. We have returned to our caves, with a slight nuance, and these ones are wired.
Written by Adile Cretallaz